Hello, I'm a lesbian too... I used to be secret as well... And I recently came out and my mom accepted it.. But the rest of my family doesn't and I get judged and rejected and put down, and iv come to realiuze that those that love and care for you most won't ever judge you or reject you... Those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter... I hope this may help a little bit and I'm here for you if you ever just need to talk or anything...