Hey I'm going through a kinda similar situation, I've decided to talk to him one last time and if it doesn't work i've gotta end it before It gets any worse :/ i really dont want to but somtimes its unavoidable :/ but yeah try again though cos you obviously really like him

I started talking to this football player in his mid-twenties in late September2008. When he first met me we were flirting and he wanted help with his assignments. Going to his room one night a few weeks later I found out that “help” meant I do the work for him and teach him what I did because he does not have enough time to learn the material. I refused until he told me the assignment was due the next day. I agreed to do it that one time. From there a relationship blossomed into a romantic one in which I was also his tutor.

I really started to like this person and give him a lot of my attention and time and vice versa and we hung out and spoke to eachother a lot. I knew he wasn’t doing all his assignments and other people were doing them for him but I was happy with “us”. When we returned Spring semester I slowly began to notice that he was seeming distant from me and it slowly bothered me. Questions were now being answered with a “huh” or “what”.

In February I began to realize that we were different. He is VERY dead-set in what he wants to do and his ways and is VERY stubborn. When I begged him one night to get someone professionally to tutor and not just do the work for him he vehemently refused saying that it is too late for that. He wants and I quote “someone else to do the assignments for him so he can concentrate on football so he can go pro by December. After he gets his contract and makes his money he will go back to school and get the education he missed and repay all the people who did work for him and his family.”

Also for the past 2 months I haven’t heard from him consistently and that bothers me the most. He will call for 2 days and when we hang up tell me that he’s gonna call right back then disappear for 5days to 2 weeks. I made a date with him at 5pm and he didn’t call me till 2am the next morning. Over spring break I didn’t hear from him for 2weeks. He said he forgot my number on his dresser. But since I was on campus he could have called the front desk for my room extension. This guy has numerous good qualities. I know the obvious is to talk to him but I have spoken to him about the way I feel now a few times. Things change for a couple days. I feel unappreciated, like I’m being taken for granted but I really care about him and I want it to work. Should I move on or try at it and why? I just want what we had 1st semester back.