[PSY]

The girl you have/had a crush on is far from perfect. I mean, if she was perfect for you, why didn't the two of you end up dating? Don't blame it on yourself - after all, if she was perfect, she would have been patient and helped you sort through whatever was interfering with the relationship, right? So clearly, she's not perfect.

What happens in situations like these is that people put crushes on "pedestals," and they develop unrealistic expectations for other potential crushes/partners. They see their first crush as this flawless person, but what they're really seeing is their PERCEIVED IDEAL. It's not real, and no matter how hard you try, you'll never find someone without flaws. You're flawed, I'm flawed, everyone is flawed. What makes a relationship "perfect" is when two people can communicate and pour their hearts/time/energy into making the relationship strong. If you believe that, then the good news is there are many people who can help you create the "perfect" relationship. They will all have their unique flaws, and the chemistry they have with you will be slightly different, but at the end of the day, if you both put in the effort, you can both be happy.