My friend is pregnant -
September 23rd 2012, 09:22 PM
Ok, so I just found out that my friend is 3 months pregnant with a guy she has been dating for like 6 months and is getting married in less than a month.
I don't know what to think. She has a history of thinking that what ever guy she is with is "the one" and gets all these ideas about how it is "perfect" and then the guy breaks up with her (or her with him) and she swears off guys and says guys are stupid, relationships are bad, there is no such thing as true love etc. And then she gets a new boyfriend 5 seconds later....
SO I am a bit worried because given her history to get VERY serious with guys VERY fast I think I have a bit of a reason to be concerned because I feel like it's like she's pregnant now, so she should just get married? Like is she getting married cause she wants to be married to him and ONLY cause she wants to be married to him? Or is she getting married cause she wants married and now being pregnant by this boyfriend (baby daddy) gives her the perfect excuse to bump it up? I've never been the one to think that being pregnant means you need to get married even sooner than you would of otherwise, especially not while in your early 20's
I get it, this MIGHT be the time that it sticks, so I really don't need people coming back to me and saying something like that. But what I am wondering is if it is unreasonable for me to think she might be using being pregnant as a reason to get married sooner than she would otherwise? Especially given her history. And what about in a year or 2 or now and she's suddenly like "oops, what did I do?". I would NEVER regret a baby, I think the oops might be in place of the seemingly rushed marriage... And I don't want to pry with directly asking her cause I don't want her to think I am not happy for her when I am, its just that I have concerns about why they need to be married now. And I am biased cause of my opinions on her past relationships...
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