[Atychiphobia]

Hey, sorry to hear this happened to you; like others have said it's not exactly something you get over, more something you 'move on from' I was sexually abused amongst other things for years, and am still haunted by these memories and feelings. However, you can get to a point when it doesn't hurt so much to know that it happened, where you aren't triggered into flashbacks and/or nightmares and when you are you can deal with it better. I had a therapist tell me when I was a lot younger that our mind releases memories of trauma as it 'feels' we can deal with it, bit by bit and although it's awful when you get those memories, it means you have the chance to move on from them. You definitely need someone more professional to talk to.. Someone you can be open and honest with about the events, memories and feelings. About your second question, yes, it's known that people who have been sexually abused are slightly more likely to be raped and/or abused again.. but I'm not sure if thats the same for the other types of abuse. It's generally because after being sexually abused you feel like it's your fault, you caused it and that they couldn't help but treat you that way (sorry for generalising!!) and those beliefs typically mean it'd be a lot easier for that person to end up in another situation or relationship where they could be treated like that. PM me if you want someone else to talk to Always here x