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Originally Posted by bumble bee
Why do you need to change anything just cause you now know he likes you? I mean, all the explaining aside that IS what it seemed like you were trying to get at. He started liking you when you were a tom boy and all that other stuff, so now just cause he wants a relationship doesn't mean you need to bust out all GIRL on him and start wearing, like, butt loads of make up and 4 inch heels and, oh yeah, you need to STOP liking video games. I don't think you want to do that. I wouldn't sweat it. Plus your style will develop as you get older, just because you were a tom boy in middle school doesn't mean you still are a hard core tom boy, rather you just enjoy aspects of being a tom boy such as a more laid back style and enjoyment in video games and stuff. Who knows, by the time you are in university your style will probably be nothing like it was in grade 7. You can't assume that everything about who you are now will still be who you are in the future because people develop and change. Not completely, you'll still recognize yourself. But being a tom boy is ok. And he obviously LIKES that you are a bit of a tom boy. So really and truly, don't sweat it.
You guys will go on your first date and everything will work out  |
Thanks so much for the advice!
I think It's just jitters about the three years of waiting I did (I'd liked and had one or two sort-of relationships inbetween, but it was kind of shocking for my "best bro" to like me back.) But about what you said in the beginning of your post -- that I don't have to change anything about myself. Like I said near the end of my post, I haven't. I haven't been acting any differently, and I haven't started wearing tons of makeup (I look fine without it, and he says he's glad that I don't, because I look fine the way I am) so while I'm not going to say he's the only one that's nervous (I am. I truly am
), he's the only one that's acting differently. I DO have my own style -- I'm known for it -- and he knows that as well, in additional to the fact that it isn't going to change for him, or anyone else for that matter.
I'm also having a little bit of an issue with addressing him as my boyfriend and being flirty with him because, while I can easily flirt with other guys, and he knows I've become slightly more feminine than before, he has never seen me be flirtatious in person -- NONE of my friends have. They all seem to think, for some reason, that I'm either incapable of it, or that I'm (in their words, not mine) "too strong of a person to have a boyfriend". According to them, they figured that since I'm the confidant "I don't give a care what you think" kid that having a boyfriend "isn't my thing". Not that they thought I was gay, but that I just didn't seem the type.