[Kumagoro]

Hey Sammy,

This is definitely rape. You used the safeword, he refused to stop - that's rape. It doesn't matter if you invited him over, or said you wanted to at the beginning. If someone - absolutely anyone - wants to stop having sex, they have every right to ask to stop. The other person has to respect that, and if they don't then that is certainly a form of sexual abuse. No means no. The fact that you invited him round was no excuse for him to take advantage of you that way.

You need to report this guy, and above all, don't see him again. This isn't your fault at all, but you need to do whatever you can to stop this happening again.

Rape fantasies are quite common but they don't involve actual rape - that's why they are fantasies. The fact that he took advantage of this and blatantly ignored the use of a safeword shows that he is not one to be trusted. Please, Sammy, keep yourself safe and report this guy. You don't deserve to go through all this hurt and confusion.