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Re: Boyfriend wants to move in with his best girlfriend. - August 15th 2012, 08:49 PM
If he's known her since elementary school, though, I'm assuming he's known her longer than you. In the case, they had their chance. If something were going to happen between them, it would have already happened. Yes, you're allowed to voice your opinion, but honestly if I were in this situation and my boyfriend told me I couldn't live with my best guy friend, I'd probably dump my boyfriend to be honest. You might think this seems harsh, but one, I know my friend will be there for me longer than any boyfriend (unless, of course, he becomes my husband) because at this point in my life, chances are I'll have known my best friend longer than any future boyfriend of mine. Now if I were in a situation where I had to choose to live with my boyfriend or my best guy friend, that'd be different, I'd choose my boyfriend - obviously.

I don't know his situation, but considering he wants to move in with a close female friend, I'm assuming he doesn't have a lot of close guy friends, or perhaps his guy friends aren't looking to move at this point. If that's the honest case, and she's the only one available, it would be selfish of you to prevent him from saving money in this situation.

This is a tricky subject, and many people have different opinions when it comes to this subject. I guess it's just so easy for me to accept guys and girls living together who are dating separate people because I honestly don't hang out with a lot of girls, and the guy I happen to hang out with the most has a girlfriend, and his girlfriend has no issue with us hanging out together/sleeping in the same apartment, considering she made the choice to move 2000 miles away from him. Why doesn't she have an issue? She trusts him.

You can say "but I don't trust her." It takes two for anything to happen. What's she gonna do? Molest him while he's sleeping? Slip something in his milk in the refrigerator? Doubtful. If something were going to happen between them, it would happen with or without them living together, especially if they're as close as you say they are.

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