Beware of graduation goggles. They've gotten many a person in trouble many a time.

So let's condense this a bit:

Your Boyfriend- is handsome, kind, easy-going, good in bed, is local, your best friend, funny, and sensitive. Emotionally unstable. You really really like him. You've been together three months.

Your ex- is abusive, would hurt your best friend, would alienate your entire social group, would put you in a long distance relationship. You loved him. You were together two years.

In regards to your current boyfriend, you've only been together for three months. Three months is a far cry from two years, not to mention each relationship is different. Just because you aren't feeling "the love" yet doesn't mean you need to panic and break it off.

As for your ex, it sounds like you loved him but that this relationship was unhealthy for you. Leaving your current relationship for him would bring your more cons than pros. All you have is the feeling of love, which though important, is pretty overshadowed with all of those other things.

For now, don't think about how much your current boyfriend needs you. Staying with someone solely because they are in a delicate place is not always a good decision. Sometimes it can lead to more resentment than love, so set that one aside for a moment.

To me it sounds like it's really not a matter of either one. It's a matter of you miss the feeling of love. You miss the cuddly closeness. It's not in your current relationship, so it seems like a better idea to return to a relationship where you knew you had it.

Ultimately, you shouldn't be dating someone if your relationship is not satisfying to you.It's also not necessarily fair to date someone while you are still hung up on someone else. Things would certainly be helped by communicating with your boyfriend. He may be in a delicate spot, but you are not his savior. You are in a relationship, and that goes two ways: you need to be able to have his support, too, and not feel selfish. If he is in too unstable of a place to provide that, then maybe you have something things to think about.

But you also shouldn't get back together with someone who was not good for you because you miss the feeling you had with them. It can be tempting to think that will make up for the downsides, but it won't. Exes are exes for a reason, and there is never an excuse for mistreating someone.

There is also the option of not dating either. Your best friend needs help, and your ex was not a good partner for you. Perhaps give yourself time to get healthy from over your ex and your boyfriend time to heal his emotional wounds, too.

With these things in mind you have more information to make your decision. Each is going to have benefits and sacrifices. It's up to you to choose which is healthiest for you.