[Bibliophile]

Originally Posted by Anthropomorphic

My dear friend was raped some time ago, but she still identifies herself as a virgin, partially because in typical teenage conversation when the topic comes up, she doesn't want to explain why she's medically not a virgin, but also because she considers her virginity to be lost when she has consensual sex.

I agree with this.

I guess if you think of virginity as something that you 'give', then you're not willingly giving it to the rapist, they're taking it from you. It's yours, so yes, by the medical definition you have lost your virginity, but it wasn't a consensual act so I'd consider future consensual sex to be losing virginity.