[Daivia]

I'm in the middle of reading How to Stay Christian in College by J Budziszewski, a Christian apologist and professor at the University of Texas.

I won't bore you with my frustrations at the book in its entirety. I will quote instead his statements about sex:

First, That means that [love's] adult expression is not sex but the binding promises of marriage

Second, sex outside of marriage doesn't help you understand sex... it makes your understanding of sex worse.

Third, having sex with another person tells you nothing about whether the two are compatible, and living together tells you nothing about whether a marriage between you would work.

Fourth, sex outside of marriage isn't romantic... it's the opposite.

Fifth, sex outside of marriage doesn't hold relationship together; it contributes to their decay.

Sixth, sex outside of marriage isn't a sign of commitment.

Seventh, the desire of sex is not a need but a want.

Eighth, ... sex outside of marriage doesn't bring lasting pleasure-- rather it murders pleasure.

Ninth, it isn't marriage that's boring-- it's promiscuity[that is boring].

(emphasis mine)

I'm curious as to what people think, especially you Christians out there.