[Brandon]

Firstly, I don't believe that I have anger issues. Sometimes I get angry at things that I feel justified in being angry in, and very rarely do I ever punch anything. I have never drawn any blood when punching objects, I've only kicked a hole in the door when I was 13 years old (which was 9 years ago), and I haven't punched a hole in anything else since. I've punched pillows, I've punched my dressers, but it was never hard enough to cause any serious damage (to me or the inanimate object), and it was very rare for something like that to happen.

A couple of my family members, specifically my dad and grandmother, might believe that I have anger issues. My dad believes that I have anger issues, but he's also said that I've gotten better. Plus, I haven't heard it in as long as I can remember. Maybe a year! I don't know. My grandmother doesn't say I have anger issues, but she's an alcoholic and believes that everyone is against her so she's not really a good opinion regarding my anger issues. My sister used to say that I have anger issues, but she'd also say that I've gotten better (perhaps significantly better).

What I'm understanding is that, while I disagree, only a select few people believe that I have anger issues.

Last Tuesday, my girlfriend and I got into a big argument. It was about alcohol, one of the things I hate the most, and it slowly escalated into me getting my stuff packed, her telling me that I don't care about her, and her throwing her anniversary ring on the floor and telling me to keep it. I was devastated, started balling my eyes out (the most I've cried in a very long time), and she came walking out of her dorm within a couple of minutes while I was on my knees not being able to breathe because I was crying so hard, and she was apologizing. I felt like I fucked things up, and I ended up punching the oven glass. I didn't break the oven glass, it merely fell out of place because my punches aren't that strong enough. It was the first time that my fist drew blood, but it was not from the impact...it was from scraping against a piece of the metal from the oven that broke some skin.

My girlfriend has a thing about violence, and she got scared. Now that she's in the Bahamas, she's talked with a few women of the group...and one mentioned that abusive boyfriends always start being abusive by punching other objects. My girlfriend is scared, and might possibly believe that I'm going to become an abusive boyfriend because I punched an object.

I know that I'm not going to become an abusive boyfriend, but I'm afraid that she's being led to believe that it will happen to her based on some biased women.

When she comes back from the Bahamas, I'm going to have a serious discussion with her, but I'm wondering...how the fuck can I prove that I'm never going to hurt her? What more can I do besides talk to her about it?