Hi.
I really need advice because I don't know what to do. I'm bad at the whole dating thing and I tend to think too hard about life than I should.
I have the tendency of making things more complicated than they should be.
It's possible that you guys can help.
Especially if you have
been in this situation and have also
resolved it..
Story:
There is a girl I quite like. I met her after winter break. I am the leader of a student organization and she met me there and has been coming back since then because, apparently, she thought I was attractive xD..
Last week we friend-
ed on facebook and basically have been talking throughout the entire day and night ever since then.
Last Friday, we went for coffee, food, dinner, and we ended up staying up till 7am talking...
Monday, I watched stuff at her place for several hours
Yesterday, she was my valentine for valentines day.. we stayed up till 2:30 and watched a movie. We also made out >_>
I did something that I hardly ever do. I asked her if she wanted to go out with me. I usually only do something so bold after like.. a year of knowing someone. But I like her a lot.
She said that she really likes me and really likes what's happening, but she just got out of a relationship around a month ago.. it was with a guy who didn't let her have a lot of freedom and stuff.. and she wasn't sure if she could be really good as a girlfriend atm.
I said that I was okay with that, that all I want right now is to keep doing what makes us happy, and that I'm more than happy to be a really really good friend. She was very much okay with that and I do think she likes me.
Ok. So. Question.
What am I supposed to do in such a situation?
We aren't dating but..
We are definitely more than friends.
I mean she just posted about her shirt smelling good.. and that she was happy. and I know it was referring to me....
So, I assume that it's not me, and that its just what she is going through with her previous relationship, right?
Like. How do I act? Do I just continue to be friendly and stuff? Do I give her extra space and try NOT to talk to her sometimes so that she can, ya know, idk?
What do you think she wants? To like.. take it slow and stuff? I mean I don't mind that. Especially because it usually takes me a YEAR to get the nerves to ask someone out.
But she keeps saying that she does want to be around me a lot. And she texts me throughout the entire day.
I'm like this because, well, my last relationship also ended poorly. Mostly because throughout the whole thing, though we were dating, I wasn't sure if I really was "allowed" to like her. It's complicated.. but.. Yeah.. My last one ended and I ended up accadentally breaking my self esteem. So..
I just really wish I knew how "i should act" and if I am, like, "allowed" to like her right now.
Are you "allowed" to like people you aren't dating??
How does one successfully play the role that she wants me to play right now?
I really don't want to mess anything up. I mess things up easily. And a lot of the time it is due to the fact that I thought to hard about it. Just like what I am doing now
Help =P