[Tyr.]

Shawn K,

Many guys will claim that if you are not in an official relationship, then kissing another girl does not qualify as "cheating", and what you did was fine. That's just playing with fucking semantics, in my opinion.

This girl confides that she likes you, and you tell her that you like her too. You go on a couple of dates, attend a party as a loosely formed "couple", and then you admit that you've been hooking up with another girl. You chose short term gratification and desire, and in doing so you demonstrated a lack of honesty, discipline and commitment to others. You put your own happiness ahead of this girl's happiness. That is not how a man should live. It is a very difficult, almost impossible, pursuit. But one you should be striving for. You fucked up this time, so now it's up to you to get your shit together and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Apologize to this girl for what you have done. As I have said elsewhere, take the consequences with grace and humility.

I hope you can recover the situation and make this girl happy.

- Yogi