Is this going to work? -
December 19th 2011, 12:58 AM
So I am fairly concerned about this newer relationship I am in, and I am hoping that someone will have something to ease my concerns or give me a reality check, or whatever it is that I need. I am dating this guy, who I have been with for going on three months now, unfortunately, for a month and a half he's been in jail, he just got out on the sixteenth. The jail situation was a simple not checking in with probation, not that big of a deal before I get the lecture about how this is already a bad idea, he knows, and I know that if he is going to be an idiot and get into more trouble, we're through, I'm not going to be the jail girlfriend. At the moment due to some restraining order drama, he is staying at my brother's house, which I set up for him. I really care about this dude, but I'm getting really worried that it's not going to work. For one thing, he isn't all that affectionate and I keep getting thrown off and start getting paranoid thinking it's a sign of some sort. I am a fairly affectionate person, I try to be moderate about it, but the truth of the matter is that I have some "daddy issues" and I've noticed that before I would try and get some of that love and affection that I missed out on through men. It's a twisted scenario, this time I am trying to value myself enough to realize that if it's not going to work, it's not going to work and not find my identity in men. However then I find myself on the other side of the spectrum where every little thing that happens I think that I'm not going to put up with this or that it's not going to work and so I end up for lack of a better word mindfucking myself. I'm a borderline personality disorder beholder, if you don't know what that is Google is an awesome tool, but basically I am a "black and white thinker". I'm normally pretty good at recognizing when I'm being irrational, but lately I don't know. I'm scared shitless. What do you think? How do I let him know that I need more affection? And where do you think the fine line between normal and clingy lies?
"No failure is ever final, nor is any success."
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