[Ghost On The Highway]

First of all, nycomma I'm really sorry this happened to you. To me, it sounds like the guy is severely troubled and is unable to express his emotions. I imagine he does feel sorry for what he did, but is either too proud, too insecure, or too afraid to apologize -- hence the "parasuicide." Either way, I'd recommend staying FAR away from him. I pray you recover from this trauma and find someone who will love you for who you are.

Originally Posted by BECCALICIOUS!

She never gave verbal consent, therefore it is still rape.

As I understand it (which is to say not very well ), consent for sex does not necessarily have to be verbalized. Rape law is quite vague and subjective; as a result, many guilty men go free and many "innocent" guys are punished disproportionately for their "crime" (especially in cases of statutory rape). The girl doesn't have to say no -- obviously many cases of rape involve people who are asleep or incapacitated.

However, she also doesn't have to sign a Dave Chappelle-esque love contract or say "Oh ___, I hereby consent to this act of lovemaking and give you permission to do whatever is necessary to..." to make sex consensual. Nonverbal cues are also legally acceptable, which blurs the line between sex and rape significantly but protects the average dude from vengeful exes, crazy fathers, etc.