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Re: Not raped but still traumatized - December 10th 2011, 10:12 PM
What you had right there is the excellent case of a controlling boyfriend.
When he threatened to kill himself he was using that as a control against you. So, you could feel sorry for him instead of him trying to apoligise and make things right.
This is rape, and as I said before, some guys aren't smart enough with body language and such to recognise that you actually want him to stop. They find things like "it hurts too much" as good thing, so they keep going to hopefully ease you into it.