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Re: Dating an ex -
September 27th 2011, 05:24 PM
Under those circumstances, I would say go for it. The relationship was broken off by outside control, not because of problems in the relationship. If you both like each other, then why not give it another chance?
In general, dating an ex is a bad idea. I've tried it before but discovered neither of us have ever changed enough for our original problems to go away. When it's been a case when he broke up with me, he often finds that I can still be controlling and demanding and that if anything, I have more of the negative qualities he tried so hard to get away from. And if I broke up with him, I'll discover that he's still the same jerk that cheated on me and broke my heart. The longer I stay with him, the more we remember why we broke up in the first place, and then it's usually a mutual decision to break up again.
You can see why I opened with what I did, though If there were no problems within the relationship that broke you apart, you won't suffer from what most people do when they date an ex. However, keep in mind that if there were any problems, they might surface again.
Dating so soon after a break up...it really depends. It depends on the relationship and on the person. But the way I see it is, if you start thinking about dating other people for reasons other than "I'm miserable and want someone to make me feel better" then I say you're ready for your next relationship. Because if you're not, you'll know. If you're not ready, you won't be able to stand thinking about it.
So based on all these factors, I would say the way is clear for you to be with him.
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