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Originally Posted by crimsontears

because of his lousy mother for one his mom is too lazy to get a job therefore they have no money.

I'm assuming he's at least your age, or older (correct me if I'm wrong). Why can't he pay for it himself?

Are you both completely dependent on your parents?

I know far too many people who have gotten into online relationships just like the one you describe. If the alternate side makes excuses as to why they can't make any effort to visit, while they're completely within the ability to make the money themselves, then it's likely that they're making excuses for other reasons. At 18 years old, unless he is so busy otherwise that he doesn't have the time to work, he should be able to pay for things himself, regardless of his parents. I would think he can make the effort if he "loves" you as much as he says he does.