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Re: still grieving - June 9th 2011, 09:17 PM

Hey there,

I'm so sorry for your loss, I really can't imagine what it must be like to have gone through something so traumatic at such an unbelievably young age! As a family I can understand why it has hit you all so hard and caused you to drift, however you should try to get your family together to help eachother out. It obviously still bothers you a lot, so talking to them may help bring them closer, not only together, but to you aswell. In turn you'll find yourself with a lot more support and comfort surrounding you when you don't feel happy about this.

And it's totally natural to still be upset, by the way! A mother is someone very close to our hearts and to lose the person that bought us into the world; the very first person we met as a baby; will be difficult to get over. While the pain may never fully disapear, there are ways to deal with it by surrounding yourself with people that love and support you, as I've already suggested.

It's also pretty natural to feel a strong attachment to your father after this. Obviously with him being your last remaining parent you will want the connection from him not only as a father but as a mother too because you don't have one. You have to remember though, that his safety is something that I'm sure he can manage. The more you worry over it the more it will upset you and if that is the case then you won't find yourself feeling less stressed and happy. You need to talk to him about this so he can reassure you that he will be okay and try to keep himself safe and always come home to you.

I hope this has helped a little bit, and if you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to PM me at anytime and I'll try to help as best I can. Take care of yourself and try to pull through this, I know it's hard but you can do it!

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