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Unhappy 'Friends' make me feel lonely? (long, sorry) - June 2nd 2011, 06:41 PM

I'll try and make it as short as possible
One girl lets call her X, and another girl Y are both my friends. I wouldn't consider either my best friends but they are in my circle of friends that I go out with and stuff. Now they are both fine towards me and I can talk to them easily when they are apart, but when they are together they really bug me. Girl Y had a fringe (bangs) and swept them to the side. At this point I also had a fringe. A couple of months on I wanted to grow mine to the side so I started to do so. Girl Y started saying behind my back to everyone that I was copying off her, partly also because we have the same music taste. I didn't know she was saying this. Then she got some Doc Martens for christmas, and a bit after i made my facebook status "I want some Docs", not because I was copying off her, but it didn't help the situation and convinced her more that I was. Then girl X caught onto the fact that I 'copied' girl Y, and sided with her. I found out because me and girl X were doing this after school thing and we were going away somewhere. I only do this thing because she asked me too and I was being a friend to her. We were sat together on the bus and she mentioned that she and girl Y were thinking about getting tickets to a band I like, so I asked if I could go with them. She then texted girl Y "I stupidly mentioned seeing the band to XY, now she wants to come". Girl Y replied "Whatta retard." I said to girl X "whos a retard" and she said "oh..I dunno. Our RE teacher I think." She didn't know I'd seen her text. I now know that they call me XY (like a mixture of their two names because I copy both of them apparently), they don't want me with them, and that they ***** about me behind my back. I know they do when I'm not there around other people too because a close friend of mine told me when I asked him.
Other things that have happened with these two are things such as when I got asked to prom before girl Y she made a status saying "I hate it when a he-she gets asked to prom before me", girl X doing impressions of me with my glasses on to make girl Y laugh which offends me because they're laughing at me bbasically them calling me a liar when I said I'd seen a video and Girl X saying to me when Y was there "You take this photo, we don't want you in it" when there were loads of people out one time.
They make me feel really friendless and llonelysometimes. They still invite me to parties they have and stuff though. I can't tell if they're joking (the mean status was when I'd fallen out with girl X over something bbi gso I let it go) or not. My friend was in a similar situation with the same two girls but not as much as me. such as they still laughed at her and called her names and stuff but not to the extent they do me.
I want to say something next time they do something that hurts me, but they'll just gang up against me and then probably ***** about me later which I don't want, then mock me some more. Right now I just laugh at myself when they do bebecause think if I show them it hurts me they might do it more. And like I said, they're both good friends to me when they are apart.
How can I stand up to them without getting laughed at more. I think part of the reason they do it is because they know I won't fight back. And I don't want to laugh at them or anyone else to impress them because I don't want to make someone else feel like I do. They are more popular than me so I think that if they fall out with me they'll manipulate others to as well and turn others in my class against me. However, I can't tell if ththey reoking or not when they do it because they have that sort of humor when ththey'reogether. My really close friends are not in any of my classes. I feel really low, don't know what to do with the situation and wanted to get it out there.
Thanks so much to anyone who read all that x