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Re: 3 months pregnant and I didn't even know? - May 1st 2011, 02:47 PM

I have to say that I agree with everyone else. At 11 years old, it is unlikely that your body will be developed sufficiently enough to be able to carry one baby, let alone two! Your education will be severely affected, compromising your ability to provide enough of an income to financially deal with children in the future. You won't be eligable for a lot of jobs until you are at least 14, either, even those that require no qualifications, and even they will only be on a part time basis with only a basic wage. Babies can be very expensive! Two cots, nappies, clothing, medical care, push chairs, day care, high chairs, sterilisers, formula milk, bedding, bottles and food are all very expensive things, not to mention twice the number of presents to buy at Christmas, which may not seem significant, but it is to a child. All of these things add up to quite a lot of money, and are only the things required by babies, and the cost only gets greater as they get older, what with school trips and clothes to pay for as well.

A lot of thirty year olds find it both financially and physically difficult to deal with twins, even with the help of partners and families, and the wage that full time employment that both members of a couple bring in.

Maybe you could go to your doctor, and just ask him/her to talk you through the risks of going through with such a pregnancy, and maybe talk to someone about the possibility of an open adoption or something?

I wish you all the luck in the world, but beg of you to take what everyone else has said in to consideration and gain a greater understanding of the implications of being not even a teen mother.

Last edited by metalheadjessus; May 1st 2011 at 02:58 PM.