Re: 3 months pregnant and I didn't even know? -
May 1st 2011, 10:10 AM
Tessa hit it all on the mark. As an 11 year old, the chances of you being physically, emotionally, and mentally ready for a baby let alone two are slim to none. Both you and the babies could be harmed during this pregnancy, a teenage pregnancy can be fatal and you aren't even a teen yet. This is very serious and as happy and giddy as you seem to be it doesn't seem to me like you are taking this serious. I mean these are babies, not just babies you can hand off to your parents when they cry. It's your choice what to do, but if I were pregnant at 11 I would seriously consider adoption. It would be better for the babies, I mean your only 11, assuming you have the babies while your still 11 you would have two 5 year olds by the time your 16. When you legally become and adult at 18 you'll be caring for two 7 year olds and by the time they're adults at 18 you'll only be 29, not even 30. In my opinion, adoption would be a much better option. You could even look into open adoption where you can get pictures and they'll know about you, you may even be able to visit sometimes, but in your case I would rather recommend a closed adoption. No option you have will be easy, but think of the babies. Would they have a better life with an 11 year old who can't even legally get a job until they are 5 years old, 3 at the very very least. Or with a married or engaged family in their late 20's or 30's who have at least one job and are financially stable enough to care for two babies?
In the end it is your choice but I highly suggest a closed adoption.
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