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Originally Posted by PSY

Because many girls have this strange idea that guys are going to FALL APART if we flat-out reject them. So they try to let them down gently... which just means they give the guy false hope and/or lead him on. Some girls are just plain malicious and enjoy bragging to their friends about how many guys they can get, without actually committing. Other girls don't mean to be malicious - they just suck at being straight-forward. They prefer the implied rejection, which is demonstrated by not showing up for a date. They let YOU do the dirty work and figure out that she's not interested, because they don't want to be the bearers of bad news. I doubt they realize that what they're doing, which is intended to make the rejection LESS painful, is actually MORE painful.

Thanks for the response. If a girl flakes on me, I make it a point not to contact her. No questions. If she wants to see me, she can give a legitimate excuse and re-schedule. I value my time more than to wonder wtf she was doing.

Also, what is a good rule of thumb for dating ages (ie the age gap)? The rule I use is 1/2 your age + 7 but that would change over time I think.