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Originally Posted by shannonashley

A lot of girls fear if they try to say no to someone, that they will end up getting hurt anyway and forced to do, so I think that's why a lot of girls give in. On top of that, for 'not trying to push off and try to leave', sometimes, it's not so easy to do that. The guy could be bigger than she is, and become very dominating and in charge and she wouldn't be able to push him off and just walk out the door like nothing happened.

In response to this, Yes fear often plays a huge role in rape. However, if no threats are made and physical force has not been used, it is totally illogical to believe that the person who wants to/is trying to/is having sex with them is going to harm them.
Secondly, They may not be able to succeed in pushing the person off or in an escape attempt, but it is the ATTEMPT that then makes it rape. If there is no attempt, there is no resistance, she does not even try to stop it - there is not a single indicator to the male that he is in fact raping someone who seems to be a willing participant.

It's not rape if there's no attempt at ending the sex or preventing it from happening. As for being pressured into it - also if no threat was made and no physical force used - not Rape. She can keep on saying no. No one is stopping her from not submitting, that is weakness of will - and when she caves and says fine, that is not rape. She said yes. 40 no's followed by a yes is still yes and if she says yes, then does nothing to stop it - she has to be held accountable for it.
Not some guy who was just horny and thought she was ok with it even if she wasn't enjoying it. jeez...

It's not Rape if you just let it happen.