[Koharuchan]

Hmm...as for how to tell your boyfriend about your rape, it can be difficult, especially since it was your boyfriend's best friend. My first question for you is: Did you contact the police after you were raped? Or were you afraid of what would happen?

My second question is: Is your boyfriend pestering you about having sex, like is he continuing to ask you after you've said you're not comfortable?

If that's the case, you need to break up with him. If he can't respect your decision, he's not right for you. Also it may be difficult explaining this to him, but he does need to know. Try and break it to him as gently as possible.

In my opinion, and I'm not trying to be mean, but you really shouldn't have sex at your age anyway. I'm no virgin, and I regret it now. I really wish I could take back what I did, and I feel that way because I'm with another guy now and he wants to stay abstinent. Not only that, but if you have sex with him and break up later you'll regret this. It's a very hard decision to make. You should be 100% sure about this before you do it, and if you decide to have sex, at least be sure to use protection.

I'm very sorry for what happened, nobody should have to go through what you went through. Your nervousness is understandable, and your boyfriend should respect that. I wish you the best of luck.