[ThePunkAlien]

If that was the case my family, sister and friends would all know by now. My Mom? She thinks I'm a homophobe because I don't want to talk about things in the news concerning being gay - mostly because that's kinda like the "the birds the bees talk" to me. That's in addition to checking out (not hiding that I do) guys when we're out. My sister also claims to have "good gaydar" - yet as a bi guy, I'm invisible. So as for a tell? No such thing, I live it and actually I'm surprised because I haven't necessarily hid it in years.

I'm not saying all gay and bi guys are masculine. What I'm saying is the public perception does bother me. The notion of a 'gaydar.' There are just as many feminine gay guys as there are feminine straight guys and vica-versa. It's not like all bi and gay guys are one way, it's just as diverse as straight guys. I truly believe, if it's seen more diverse things'll get better.

James Dean came out. Hollywood, despite what people think, is a hard place to come out in. Dean's agents didn't want him to come out and were angry at the comments he made - he stated, when asked about relationships, that he doesn't believe in keeping one arm tied behind his back. He didn't plain out say what he meant - but in context it's beyond simple. If he was doing that to "get ahead" behind closed doors - in a beyond conservative age - he wouldn't be saying things like that to the press where it could hurt him. It would remain behind closed doors. That's why he's one of my heroes, while "the man" was telling him to hide it - he said fuck no, fuck this and came out in his own way. That takes guts, especially back then.

I'm not necessarily saying Alexander has to be the most masculine of men, he does seem to go against the stereotype though. Alright, look at it this way - what the fuck is up with "don't ask, don't tell" in the military? If Alexander was around today, they'd say "no way" - what the bloody hell? One of our greatest war heroes of all time was bi. It's hypocritical.

Basically, all I'm saying is, I want stereotypes to end. I want the diversity to be portrayed as it is. Because it is diverse. Plus, with all honesty, I think things would get better for everyone if those stereotypes do end. Ex: People believe/say those who are bi are in it for double the sex - me? I'm just naturally that way, no higher or lower sex drive than the average guy. I just happen to click with both. I'm happy with it and I was born that way.

Not all straight guys are presented as one uniformed image. Gay/bi guys should be treated the same way. And as said, the one example I gave before, 'Shameless' does that perfectly. That's all I'm look for. Equality. That would be real.

Imagine every straight guy being portrayed in the media as a big macho guy who only cares about sex and shows absolutely no emotion. Unreal right? Same thing here.