[Palmolive]

Hey there.

You sound like a really lovely person and this girl is lucky to have you looking out for her. I want to make sure you know that her self harming isn't your fault. I don't want you to blame yourself.

As for helping her, perhaps you could try and encourage her to talk to someone about the self harming and the issues which are causing her to feel the need to harm herself. You could suggest her talking to a school nurse/counselor, a teacher, a parent or a doctor who will all hopefully be supportive and try and offer advice and further help if it is needed. You can even offer to go and talk to one of them with her if she would want you to.

You could point her in the direction of this site if you feel she would benefit from it. Also suggest some helplines for her to ring if she needs to talk about something, shes feeling low or has any urges. Here is a link to a list of helplines ... http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f3-general/t22-hotlines/. Or you could print of this list of alternatives to self harm ... http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-s...ves-self-harm/.

Remember at the end of the day though shes in control of her own actions and what she does or doesn't do is in her control. And always remember to look after yourself as well!

I hope this helps. Keep smiling
Jessie'Lou