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Originally Posted by NolanKinney
She is the oldest, her two brothers are 5 and younger, I would love to try that, I just want the chance for her mother to get to know me first, before she makes up her mind, but i found out from my GF, she's the type of person who if she makes up her mind it's set in stone type deal.
I just don't want to lose her because of this, like i said I can see myself spending a very long time with her.
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As much as you love your GF, remember that what she says about her mother is more than little biased. I was the exact same when I was 16, and I still am. I'm sure there is some truth in what she says but not all of it is the one and only truth. Her mother probably loves her very much and I can understand that your GF finds it very frustrating that she has to help with the chores and taking care of her younger brothers, but it's life. Older children always have to help with the chores and stuff, and when her brothers are older, they will have to help with the household stuff as well. It sucks, especially if she hates doing chores(like I do lol) but probably her mother thinks she's doing a favor for her daughter so that she isn't completely helpless when she moves out.
Love makes us often blind, and people are always a bit funny what it comes to their parents. Some people love them so much that they won't see anything bad in them, whereas some people won't see anything good in their parents. It's not good to be extreme in that way, and again, I suggest you try getting to know her family. I know that her little brothers would love it if you played with them, it would be like having a big brother for them, and it would really show her parents that you're not just some kind of creep who's going to hurt their daughter. They are trying to protect her, not necessarily in a good way but anyways.
Take small steps, talk with your girlfriend and support her when she feels like she can't take it anymore. I'm sure you're already doing that but it's really important. And give her family a chance, like you wish to do, and maybe you'll both be surprised to see that her family will actually give you a chance as well. It's not certain but you'll never know if you don't try..