[NolanKinney]

Hello, my name is Nolan Andrew Scherer Kinney.

Here's my story.
Lets start out the first time I saw her, I couldn't take my eyes off her, but when I was in 11th grade, I was a bit shy, through out highschool. I did try to say "Hi" but my hands got shaky when ever I got close to her, my pawms swetty, so i kept walking by. I finally found a way to talk to her, I found her on Myspace, and I stayed up all night trying to figure out if I should click ADD. I took the chance, she added me. we started to talk.
I found out we had the same goal in life, to become a tattoo artist, that was how i found a topic to introduce myself to her. we talked more, and at the time i didn't have a cell phone so that was the only way I could talk to her. We decided we were going to hangout finally, tryed but her boyfriend told her, that if she ever hung out with me he would dumb her. we tryed to hangout a couple more time after that, but things went wrong, i showed up late by a five mins, and she was already gone. I thought she was messing with me, so i stopped talking to her, she found me on facebook, after i deleted my myspace for a year, i have a cell phone now so we started to text, and I asked her if she wanted to hangout like we tryed before, and she said "YES!!!" so we got together.

We were walking and I got her to laugh the whole time, she told me she hasn't laughed like that in a long time after we got done hanging out, the whole time we were hanging out I wanted to get to know her more, so we talked about our interests in life, what we liked to do, and how we both like art, we clicked from the start, we were hanging out at her house, and she was eating a lot and i had no problem i got to spend time with her she must be hungry i thought, i found out she was just as nervous as i was, my nervous made me keep my jacket on the whole time, and she ate when she got nervous. The whole time I wanted to put my arm around her, the whole time she wanted me to, and i didn't know. we hung out for three hours, watched a movie and talked.

I started to fall in love with her from her personality, she's very beutiful, but i fell in love with who she was, because that the type of guy I am. We have every thing in common, from art, to animals, nature, and more. We have personalitys that are different that keep everything from overwhelming each other and makes everything fall into place and fit.

I was talking to her after i left through text messages, and she said "I would of liked it if you stayed longer, i already miss you" I jokling said, "hey what's" when I was next to her, because i was nervous when I was hanging out with her, and she replied "just hanging out with the coolist guy ever" I didn't reply because why would i talk to her through texts if we were right next to each other.

On the walk home, I replyed to that text saying "Ah, not much I just hung out with the most awsome girl in the world" we started to talk more and we ended up talking about how much we both wanted to cuddle.

I asked her if she was single and she said "It's complicated, but don't get me wrong I really like you alot" I found out later on why things were complicated, but we're not there yet, and no it wasn't another guy.

We contiune talking, and we ended up talking about how much we wanted to date each other, and how we both liked each other the first time our eyes met, but we were both to shy to talk to each other an that she had a crush on me as long as i had on her.

we talked more and ended up on the topic, she asked me "What do you want out of this now" I said "I would like to be your boyfriend, get to know you more, and or be your friend" she said "I would like that a lot" about two hours later we nerdly asked each other out at the same time. Thing were going great.

I met her mom, her mother and father are divorced, and she told her that she couldn't date me, because I was 18 now. But when we first met she was 14 and i was 16. We're still dating, because we both like each other a lot and her mother is making things complicated for us, even though it's 100% legal dating her, and where I live she's over the age of consent. When I met her family, they seemd pretty cool, we ended up talking about comic books, warhammer, and comic con, her mother and i. she seemed like a really nice person, but i found out she's the type of person who puts on a face for company and then changes once everyone is gone.

I sat up all night trying to figure out a way to talk to her mother about this, and i didn't know when I was going to get the next chance to do it. so i found out she had a facebook and i sent this.

Dear, (MOTHER NAME HERE)

I would prefer to talk to you about this in person, but I don’t know when I’ll get an opportunity to. I heard from (GF NAME HERE) that you didn’t want us dating, and at first I was really upset about hearing that, we get along really well, and we have similar goals and interests in life, which is a big part of why I enjoy spending time with her. I tried putting myself in your shoes and I can respect where you stand on this whole thing, but she’s the first girl I've legitimately cared for. If (GF NAME HERE) and I were to start dating she would be my first real girlfriend, and I have nothing but good intentions. When I think about dating your daughter it makes me very happy, I would just like the opportunity to talk to you and have you get to know me a little more. I plan on treating your daughter right, with utmost respect. Thanks for your time and I’m really looking forward to hearing back from you. If you have any questions or anything feel free to call, honestly I’m nervous, but I feel like it would be right to say this to you.

Sincerely,
Nolan Kinney
(MY NUMBER WAS HERE)

Still no reply, when she goes home, her mother sits on the couch all day, while she makes her clean the house, cook, take care of her mothers kids, change sheets and do laundry and more. I have a feeling the reason why she doesn't want us dating is the fact i'm 18 now and that she doesn't want to lose her person maid.

Her mother and step father, call her a whore, because of her dating in the past, her family is religous.

She called me one day crying, about us not being able to date and, another time about her step dad comming home and randomly telling her he was going to send her to jail and make her stay there till she was 21. every chance her mother and step father get they bring her down.

She was telling me about, how she went to get help from a school councler, and she told the councler, how her mother acts and step father and how herself is not suicidal or depressed, but from the constant things they say to her, they make her feel like crap and make her feel depressed, and she told the councler, that her mother was suicidal herself, the councler called her mom to get help for my gf. Her mother told a lie to the councler that everything was not true, and grounded my GF for five months and didn't allow her to talk to anyone, because she went to get help.

i was talking to her about trying to move in with her father, because it seemed to me like they were sucking the life out of her. she told me "I did try that before, my mom told me that "That I will make things worse for your father if you ever try to leave" and i'm afraid she really means it and she has done that before"

We've been dating for awhile now, without her mother knowing, for about two weeks, but i've known her for a year.
We did talk about her waiting till she turned 18 next year and everything would be fine and how she wanted me to come get her on her 18 birthday and take her away.

I came up with the idea, of dating her till next year and even longer, but in the mean time, just text and talk on the phone more, hangout every now and then. till she turned 18, or i told her I would wait for her and she would wait for me, and that i wouldn't date or fool around with anyone, and same goes for her.

we've already expressed how much we care about each other and i told her that she was my dream girl, and she honestly is, if you belive in soulmates, she my soulmate type deal, she's the person i would like to spend a really long time with and see where things go from there. no we haven't talked about marriage that's to early.

I care a lot about her, and she cares a lot about me. I trust her and she trusts me, we clicked from the start and she's the only girl i've ever said "I love you to" and ment it, and she said the same about me.

She's being hurt because of our relationship, because she doesn't want to have to lie to her mom about dating, because she had to do it in the past (Her mom doesn't like it when she dates people even her age) and i care about her a lot and i don't want her to suffer like this. because when i said "I love you" I ment it from the heart.

She has told me, she feels safe in my arms, i took all her pain away, and her past relationships have made it hard for to get close to someone, and i told her "I will never put you through what they put you through, I will always be here for you, no matter what time it is, if you need someone to talk to, you can come to me, no matter what it is, I will never judge you, I will only be here to listen and hold you tight, and talk to you about it. I'm not like those guys, i was taught from a young age from my mother to be a gentlemen, hold doors open for girls, give my seats to elders, push in girls seats, respect them, and only ever treat them with love and how i would like to be treat, to always say "yes please" and "No thank you" to always use manners and treat every girl with respect".

Now, here's the thing that I don't understand, parents talk about how they want there daughter to date, a man, who will treat them right, treat them with respect, be a gentlmen to them, and be there for them. i'm that person and i will never change, i made my mom a promis when she passed away that i will never change the person she tuaght me to be. I have a really big heart, and i hate to see people suffer.

This girl is honestly, like i said if you belive in soulmates, she's my soulmate, she's honestly the person i want to spend a long time with, to never hurt and only protect her from those monsters and dark nights. I care about her a lot, I didn't fall in love with her to fast, because i known her for a year before we started to date.

I just don't want her to suffer because of her mom and I, and cause more pain on her, but at the same time, i'm keeping her pain away and causing it, because like i said her mother and i.

She made all my pain go away, she made me forget about my father getting cancer, losing my mother, having to move my whole life, being poor, she eased my thoughts and made everything alright, i want to do the same for her, and i don't know how i could ever repay her, but to give her my heart and only ever treat her right and protect her, make her pain go away like she did for me.

I can honestly say with all my heart, I truely love this girl and I found my soulmate the girl I want to spend a long time with and that'll never change. When you find someone like that you just know, and we both think the same way.

What are your honest opinion about all this, also please don't just put, "your young, you'll meet more people" not to be rude, but I know that, and i don't want to, i'm going to be aragent right now and leave it at (Because I posted this before on a different site and all i got back was "YOU"RE YOUNG") i want to spend a long time with her and i'm prepared to fight for our love. I'm not going to just give up and say good bye to the girl I care about a lot, just because her mother doesn't want us to date, when we only have to wait a year, and i'm not going to let down the fight, but at the same time i don't want to hurt her.

Also sorry if the last part seems bad, i just don't know how to word it that well... i'm not really use to doing this type of stuff and asking for advice. so sorry if the last part is rude, i didn't mean for it to come off that way