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Originally Posted by Nova

That's really surprising to hear come out of a guy's mouth. Seriously. My mind is just blown.

From the sound of it, it kind of makes it seem like you'd have to know the person was wife-material very early on. And then you'd hold back intimacy in a relationship that may otherwise help bring you closer.

And there is nothing wrong with having to know if the person is wife-material very early on. Wife-material, for myself, is someone that can hold responsibilities like a job, an education, can clean up after themselves, can handle being around kids, being around animals, not a drug user, not a smoker, not a heavy drinker.

I wouldn't say that my 'holding back intimacy' in a relationship is correct. However, you are correct that it can bring two people closer, but only at the right time. Again, for myself, the right time would be after marriage. There are many other intimate things that a couple can do for years while still waiting to have sex until wedding night. Sex is not the only form of intimacy; There is hugging, holding hands, walks, cooking food together, laughing and crying laughing, etc. Not to mention; kissing! And there are things you can learn from yourselves or gain more knowledge about the world, have a good time with friends/family, or go on a trip just the two of you(or more if it's with friends/family or a polygamous relationship).

I believe that to wait a long while is beneficial since some people just can't see any relationship further than the sex. What I mean is that their thoughts will be "What's after sex?" and some people will be at a complete loss and the relationship dies out.

These are just my preferences. They're not high standards, just personal preferences. If I feel I'd have to 'tame' someone to be in a relationship with me, or if someone would want to make me more 'free' in a relationship, then it's doomed to begin with. For now, I'm perfectly fine with being single while waiting and searching for someone that has more or less the same views on sex and relationships as me.