[DanielR]

(I labelled as triggering, as some people who've been affected by miscarriages may find it triggering.)

Hey guys;

The other day I tried to post for some advice, but it made no sense (the thread) so... I deleted it.

Anyway, I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago due to not being happy in the relationship. She appeared to be more attached than I, and we've been talking the last few days. Yesterday she informed me that she got a blood test and found out she was three months pregnant (she apparently knew this a week or two ago, but didn't tell me... and then I broke up with her), but due to our argument and her stressing out... she miscarried.

I'm not sure how to take it. When she told me she was pregnant (I didn't read the part of her email that said "I lost it" until afterwards) I went crazy, abused her etc... said I wasn't ready for kids, I'm only young...

We were using protection (the pill), but... I suppose it happens sometimes.

Anyway, I've been really thinking about this whole situation... wondering what it would have been like to have fathered a child. I'm not sure how to feel about this situation, I'm kind of disappointed that she lost it, but glad as well (I don't want my kids growing up in broken homes, etc).

Honestly, what should I feel about this?