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Re: is this rape?? -
October 13th 2010, 01:01 PM
I'm sorry that this has upset you so much, and it definitely wasn't your fault.
However, I don't believe this was rape. Even though you had told him earlier, is it possible that he had forgotten or was just caught up in the moment? Of course that is no excuse, but when you asked him to stop he stopped.
Again, it was terrible you went through that but it seems to me that it was an unfortunate misunderstanding and when you made your wishes clear he stopped. Is it worth ruining his life over? Not to be harsh but if you do go to the police you probably won't get anywhere because you consented to having sex originally and because he stopped. You would put yourself through a lot of emotional trauma where people would unfairly question your character.
You should DEFINITELY talk this through with someone though.
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