[Grizabella]

Everyone has already mentioned that you need to take responsibility for your actions, which is 100% true. Whether or not you like it, she's pregnant with your child, and laws say that it's her decision to keep it or abort/adopt it.

But in my mind, taking responsibility doesn't necessarily mean being the baby's father. If you think you won't be a good father, then perhaps it's best to distance yourself from the situation and only pay child support. There's lots of mention on the horrors of absentee fathers, but from my own experience, I know that I was much better off growing up without my father. A nuclear family is not always the best situation.

Eventually though, it's your decision. If you really want to marry her, you're going to have to accept her decision to keep the baby. If she wants to keep it, it's not going anywhere.