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Originally Posted by Jaymz404
Can't see how that is true at all.
Without the male sex cell's (gammetes) you would not have it at all. Thus it's a 2 person job and as a result I would always beleive you have a decision as it's your DNA aswell not just hers and this effects your life aswell not just hers.
You always have a choice and don't let anyone tell you differently. You do not have to become a father. And personally I do not think you should.
You obviously do not want it and you are just staying because of the girl you love. This child in your eyes is unwanted and that is unfair on you and the child.
Talk to her, fix this.
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The guy puts the sperm into the female's body and then the female's body takes it from there for the rest of the nine months. I think it's pretty safe to say that the mother should have a very important say in whether or not the baby is to be born considering that she is to carry the child, give birth to the child, and plan on being there for the child after it's born. And if the father chooses to be there also, that's fantastic.
You're absolutely right. The father doesn't have to do anything. He can walk around for the rest of his life pretending that it never happened and that he doesn't have a child out there somewhere. However, that's simply him not taking responsibility for his actions. My father is one of those guys. Yay for daddy... whom I've never spent more than three minutes with in my life... It kind of takes a toll on the kid, emotionally to know that one of their parents just abandoned him. It hurts.
Anyway... Amy has a good point. If you don't want to grow up and be mature, do you really think that a marriage is going to work out. I'm not married, but I have been living with my boyfriend for almost a year. It's HARD work even to live with someone. There are so many aspects of the relationship that become a part of the picture that you wouldn't have even imagined before. It's definitely not "happily ever after" like everyone thinks.