If you're not ready to mature then how could you possibly be ready for marriage???!
I am married.. probably one of the very few people on here that is actually MARRIED.
I walked down the aisle when I was 19 going on 20. Marriage is not something to enter into when you know for a fact you're not ready to mature and take responsibility for your life.
It's hard work.. And it takes a LOT of adult effort from the husband and the wife.. I don't see how you could possibly make a healthy marriage work if you're not ready to grow up..
It sounds like your girl has already made up her mind... and it sounds like you need to talk to your parents for guidance on this issue..
I'm also a mother to a little boy who just turned 1. Being a parent can get stressful and if you know in your heart that you don't want this baby maybe you should talk to your girl about open adoptions... or letting a grandparent raise the child?
Best of luck either way..
If you want to talk to someone who is married, and has a child just
pm me anytime.