[Gingerbread Latte]

I don't think giving him a handjob requires you to let him do anything back to you. If you aren't ready then he should respect that, not get mad at you. If he keeps trying to pressure you into doing things you don't want to do then honestly you might want to think about getting rid of him and finding someone who respects you and will wait until you're ready.

I'm not sure whether or not it's less serious but if it's something you don't want to do then don't feel like you owe him anything.

Also, I just want to say that you did the right thing standing up for yourself, a lot of people just go along with things like that especially if they're being pressured into it