Re: Fiancee's Pregnant (2 months) and I'm scared... -
January 8th 2009, 03:36 PM
It's not unusual for you to feel overwhelmed at this point. I think all parents do, whether they're 15 or 30, prepared or not. Bringing a life into this world is a big responsibility, but it seems you're more scared than anything. Being forced to grow up can be very scary.
At this point, seeing as you two do communicate, as you've said you have talked to her about your feelings about the baby, perhaps instead of doing counseling just yourself, consider doing it together? A child is a big step, and it's going to take some adjusting to for her as well as you.
You don't want resentment to grow due to the baby, so the two of you really need to work at communicating with each other. Don't bottle up those emotions you're feeling. Chances are she is just as scared, but seeing as she doesn't believe in abortion (nor do you), and she doesn't want to consider adoption due to her bond with the baby, her choice is made. Don't let resentment build between you two because you feel you had the choice taken from you.
There are many here on TeenHelp who have had children before they had planned or dealt with their loved ones/partners having children. Yes, you do have options, but if abortion and adoption are out for the two of you, and you're determined to stick by her side, then you need to talk more and find a way to make this work.
Married since 28 June 2009 to my DevilDog
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