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Re: frend is pregnant! she doesnt want it! HELP!!!! - June 4th 2010, 12:21 PM

I think the first thing that you should do is find out if she is actually pregnant. If she is only one month along, she would not have a bump yet and I very much doubt she would be experiencing morning sickness. The skipped period, whilst a common sign of pregnancy, can also be caused by a number of other factors. Stress can cause periods to stop (and it sounds like your friend is quite stressed right now). And being so young, her periods might not even be regular yet, so skipping her period might be a common occurrence.

Basically, the first thing you should do, before worrying about telling her parents, is to get her to take a pregnancy test or go see a doctor who can confirm whether she is pregnant. Obviously, she doesn't want to ask her parents to buy a test for her. Would you be able to buy a test for her? Or do you have an older friend or relative who you trust enough to ask?

If her test comes up as positive, you should go with her to see a doctor to discuss her options, such as abortion and adoption. And taking her to see a school counselor would be a massive help as well. They would be able to give her the information she needs and work out a way in which she feels comfortable enough to tell her parents. Running away is not a good option and you should explain that to your friend if she wants you to run away with her. Being just 15, pregnant, and trying to survive on your own won't work and it'll be too dangerous for her and the baby.

I think it's really great that you're looking out for your friend like this. Please give me a PM if you need to talk anymore about this, or get your friend to PM me if she wants someone to talk to .



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