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Re: Cousin Grieving and I'm unsure how to help.. - January 6th 2010, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Jen View Post
Hey,

I'm sure it's so hard sitting by while he is grieving so much. Unfortunately, it IS like you said--to an extent, you need to sit there and wait until he's ready. Grief isn't uniform and it can take many different pathways and avenues. Sometimes a person might want to talk, other times they don't. They might cry, or they might laugh. It's very unpredictable. So the most important thing is that he knows you're there for him--which, thanks to your wonderful caring self, he does know. And it can't hurt to remind him of that periodically, but other than that, follow his lead. If he's joking around, go with it. If he isn't talking about it, don't push it. When he is ready, he'll know you're there. And in the meantime, you're doing the best thing for him.

Remember to take care of yourself, too! If this is affecting you a lot, don't hesitate to reach out to someone.

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What needed to be said has been said by Jen and it has been said well. But be strong young one.