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Re: Best friend is pregnant and alone - November 19th 2009, 05:03 PM
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Originally Posted by not_a_teen View Post
Don't be too hard on the guy, people.

Think of the position he's in: through no fault of his own (how was he to know his gf's birth control would fail?) he's now in the position that if his gf decides to have the baby and keep it, he can be forced to pay child support. Depending on where he lives, that could be a good chunk of his income for the next 18 years.

And yet the only control he has in this situation is his power of persuasion. If his gf decides to keep the baby and file for support, he has to pay. If he never wants a relationship with the child (or is denied one) he still has to pay. Two decades from now he could even be helping put someone he's never met through university.

No wonder he's freaking out.
Freaking out would be totally understandable. I'd probably freak out a little too. But that's not justification for emotionally abusing and manipulating his girlfriend. One of the first rules of having sex is: be prepared to deal with the consequences. The situation is equally his responsibility and hers, and I stand by what I said about probably wanting nothing to do with someone who instantly defaults to being selfish when the chips are down.

The atoms that make up you and me were born in the hearts of suns many times greater than ours, and in time our atoms will once again reside amongst the stars. Life is but an idle dalliance of the cosmos, frail, and soon forgotten. We have been set adrift in an ocean whose tides we are only beginning to comprehend and with that maturity has come the realization that we are, at least for now, alone. In that loneliness, it falls to us to shine as brightly as the stars from which we came.