My best friend told me yesterday that she had found out Friday she was pregnant. Despite the fact she is on depo she apparently was able to conceive and is now four weeks along. She is eighteen years old, jobless and not in school at the moment, and she is very confused, scared, upset, and worried for the life growing inside her.

Her boyfriend happens to be my best friend. She told me she told him Friday as soon as she found out, and he freaked out. I asked how he was handling the situation, and I am appalled at him for some of the things he has told her.
I realize he is scared, but that is no excuse to try and force her to get an abortion and threatening that their relationship wont work out if she doesnt get one or if she thinks about any other options. He seems unwilling to take responsibility for his "mistake" but doesnt want anyone else "raising his mistake" and will only ever "tolerate his mistake" if she were to have the baby.

He doesnt realize that abortion can be a traumatizing experience for the mother emotionally, and my friend is already emotionally fragile. She told me every fiber in her being is telling her abortion is the wrong thing to do. She says if she did she would never want children again and that she may be pushed over the edge to commit suicide.

So yesterday she decided she was going away, and I urged her to do so (no matter if her boyfriend comes after me later). She will go away to think and try and consider other options. But she is scared and virtually alone. She was only leaving for a couple weeks, but her bf said they were done if she left. He went over to talk to her last night about it and she was really worried he would convincer her otherwise because he has that power over her. She also didnt want him to go to the doctor with her because she was scared hed tell the doctor they had decided their option already, and she wanted the doctor to tell her her options.

I am doing my best, but can someone please tell me how I can support my best friend? I feel its not good enough, the advice I am giving. I also fear for her. And can someone also tell me how to keep from being furious with the father or letting his disgusting behavior ruin our friendship, since technically this should stay between them and I shouldnt get caught in the middle?