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1. bisexual
2.when i was 11 or 12 (i dunno if that's considered young, but that's when i started noticing)
3. There was a girl in my class that I had this really strong feeling for, and at first I kind of ignored it and passed it off as admiration or something, but I didn't want to emulate her, I wanted to date her :-P And then I was reading books that I really identified with gay characters, feeling different, attractions toward the same gender, etc. I knew I liked guys, but I also liked girls. This for me is bisexuality.
4. Still waiting. I've never gone out with anyone actually haha.
5. Eventually the questioning and denying and hoping it would go away got to be too exhausting and I just... accepted it. It just crashed into my brain with this finality I couldn't shake. That was that, and this is how I was going to be.
6. I came out a year or so after I had come out to myself, first to my mom, then friends, acquaintinces, etc. I don't think everyone knows, but most of my friends and people at school do.
7. The majority of people have been awesome about it
My friends were like, "Okay, that's cool, it doesn't bother me." Even my very religious (Catholic) friend, who is kinda skeeved out by homosexuality, said she'd always be my best friend and didn't care if I was bi. My friends don't treat me differently that I've noticed, though a couple who used to say "That's so gay" have stopped and tell people off for saying it lol. At first my mom was all "Are you sure, you're too young to know" but still supportive and by now she's totally accepting of it. I think it takes some people a little longer to get used to it than others, but if you still act the same and stick to your guns most will come around. Also, adults in general tend to say "You can't know yet, etc" which is annoying. I mean, why would you make it up? No idea why they're like that... It's odd, but the most infuriating response was from a girl who is also bi. I just mentioned it casually "oh, me too" and she insisted I could never know having never kissed a girl. I don't think this is the case, considering I've not kissed a boy either, and i'm not a sexuality-less blob.
7. Tips? Okay, let's see...
1. It's okay to question, and there's no rush to peg yourself as one sexuality
Take your time figuring it out. And if you don't want to label it, there's no problem with that.
2. Read a lot, go to websites, watch movies, etc about sexuality and homo/bi/pan/trans sexuality in particular. This will give you information, and can help you sort things out if you're questioning. Also, knowing there are people out there who are similar can make you feel better.
3. Don't let anyone tell you that you are wrong, sick, immoral, dangerous, mentally ill, fake, or any other nasty, derogatory thing. You are not. Gay or not, you deserve respect and if you are
LGBT, that's not a bad thing. It's just a part of who you are, something you can't change.
4. If you want to come out (if you are
Lgbt) then I suggest testing people's reactions before telling them. Bring up a story you saw on the news/read/heard about gay marriage, gay rights, and see how they respond. Say you have a friend who's gay, ask their opinion on that. This gives you an idea of how they will respond to you coming out. Tell people you trust, and those you know love you and are likely to be supportive. Also, I'd wait on telling until you're sure of your sexuality, just so you can be more confident.
5. Remember that you're not alone
There are many people out there who are questioning, or
LGBT and people on this website as well that are going through or have been through the same thing. Talk to us if you want, we're here to help. That's why this is called TeenHelp haha.
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