[SimplyComplex]

Hey Bella,

I can see how this might be confusing right now, especially if it bothered you a lot. When you're that young, you shouldn't be exposed to things like this. No one should have to be exposed to anything before they feel ready or willing to.

I would say right now, the biggest thing you're dealing with is the idea of being sexually abused. Try to drop that term for now and think of how you feel/felt about this situation. You don't need to label this anything you aren't comfortable with. For now, sort out your emotions towards things first. Those, after all, are the most important things. Sorting through those and coping with them should be priority.

If you think about the situation and find yourself affected, either by a flashback or negative feelings - I suggest talking to someone about this. Even though it might not be any form of contact violations, it's affecting you and it's therefore important to deal with - not force away. Try talking to your parents and maybe think about seeing a counselor to help you deal with your emotions and feelings. They might even be able to help you categorize what happened in a way easier to handle right now. Either way, I think the fact that this is sexual abuse or not is irrelevant. I think the most important thing to decide is if you're affected by what happened and how you plan to cope with how you feel. Other things will come along the road to progress of coping.