[Jen]

Hey there Rachael,

I can hear how nervous and scared you are. What a terrifying thing for you to be enduring and witnessing. People with eating disorders often think that they are in control with their food and weight, but in reality, the eating disorder is in control. They put the eating disorder first, before everything else. They can't see a life without it, and they feel as though they need it to survive. It can be really tough on loved ones, like you are experiencing, to have to witness it.

Have you talked with your girlfriend? Not just told her that you're worried, but truly sat down with her and had a real conversation about how this is impacting your relationship and how it's impacting you and your life? For a lot of people, the true wake-up call comes when loved ones are honest about how they are being impacted.
I'd encourage you to be as honest as possible with her, even if it's hard for her to hear.

Remember to take care of yourself, too! Reach out to TH, to other people you like and trust, to anyone. You need to take good care of yourself as well. Let me know if you ever want to talk, okay?

<3