[ThePunkAlien]

1. I asked what because your comment read more like it came from a Dr. Seuss book, I couldn't read it.

2. Others have brought up or illustrated that they have thought abortion to be better than adoption. Looking back, the one thing I see myself getting mixed up over is who stated what because some people reply to posts directed at certain members as though I responded to them. Someone had said kinder, I confronted them on it and you replied to that confrontation and I in the process acidentally displaced that onto you...

Originally Posted by xxEllexx

i think it's much kinder to abort a child in this situaton than to put it up for adoption. this would cause unecessary trauma for the woman the child, which could be avoided by abortion.

Thus, comments like that have been stated, just mix-up as in who. Also note that no situation was given, thus it was - more or less- being unable to take care of the child and it being an unexpected pregnancy (which no one expects to get pregnant then give it up for adoption).

SO... as I stated before... directed generally...

Here's the other thing I don't understand, it seems like some people actually believe abortion to be a better alternative which I think is beyond absurd. How can death ever be considered better than life, maybe if one is going through a depression of some sort - they'd be like everyone else in that field (as said, should minority groups and kids from unstable homes be killed? it's basically the exact same thinking here). Also if you look at statistics, which I have, there are a lot more well adjusted adoptees than there are those with problems because of it - which can actually be linked back to not having a stable home life, in which case they'd be like everyone else in that situation who was never put up for adoption. So if potential problems brings about that viewpoint, well then that would equate nonadoptees too.

Anyone can have any opinion about abortion as they so choose, but can anyone with this abortion > adoption viewpoint (which I find really disturbing) explain why they see things this way.

If "possibility of unstability" comes up, well then you can throw a lot more nonadoptees into that because their parents never chose to become parents for the most part - they got stuck with you (generalized) which would bring a lot more dilemmas and problems into one's life. I know, I've seen this happen more times than I can count. So if "unstability" is brought up, from what I've seen nonadoptees go through much more of a trauma because many of their parents didn't originally choose to be parents and are tried to forcibly be molded into them by the parents trying to relive their "glory days." You ask me, due to that - I'm a lot happier to be adopted, even though I'm curious about my origins, because at least I got to follow my own destiny instead of all this fear of becoming your own parents. I know that sounded harsh, but no more harsher than what some nonadoptees have stated about adoptees.

So while nonadoptees may want to act as though they don't go through difficulties of being a natural child, I've seen contrary to the case numerous times. So those nonadoptees who look at us and shake their heads and say "oh, you're not everyone, there aren't a lot of happy endings" or "oh the traumas," guess what? When I look at you I see the exact same thing and think - thank heaven I'm not in those shoes.

The basic point I'm trying to make, although as harsh as some on here, is that everyone has difficulties. The adoptees have just as much of a chance for the positives and negatives as the natural child. Hell, I've even heard nonadoptees say they wish they were adopted, what does that say about the "natural child"? While there may be other difficulties, that goes on both sides of the equation, evening things out. Not one of the experience is better or more traumatic than the other - they just are, and they're the same statistics.

Once again, this is not to say we, the adoptees are better than the naturals. This post goes to show that we can flip the same roll of dice back on you. There is nothing additional here, everything evens out - some adoptees wish to be natural, while some naturals wish to be adoptees and so on. Their the same coin, but different sides - both sides, however are equal in positives and negatives even if they don't "look" the same. We're two sides of the human race, we may have different sides, but overall we're equal and two sides of the same exact coin. Nothing more, nothing less - everything evens out.