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Originally Posted by Josh
Due to this alone, I'm sorry but I just can't take anything you say seriously now. A man with both arms can truly in all being understand the one armed man and what it feels like to only have one arm?
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Whether you take me seriously or not I don't really care. I've said already, the two-armed man CANNOT understand how the one-armed man feels. I don't know why you're questioning something that I put in very simple terms. In case you cant catch it, I'm agreeing with you on this example and in the fact that non-adoptees cannot understand how an adoptee feels. They can sympathize but they cannot understand. However, the adoptee's opinions regarding adoption should not carry more weight than the non-adoptee because that implies that in some way they are above the rest, they are putting themselves on a pedestal and can easily play the card of "well you don't understand how I feel so I'm going to ignore you". The adoptee's opinion has better insight and probably more knowledge on the topic, however, in a debate, their opinions on the matter have the same weight.
To make it really clear to you, in your own words:
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Everyone goes through something, everyone has something that follows them in life, adoptees are no different than others we just face different problems along the way.
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Originally Posted by Gidig
Another thing I think reading this gets across, is what would we do if abortion wasn't legal?
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Carry through with the pregnancy and possibly give the child up for adoption. Although the problem I see with this is that orphanages will be very strained due to the large amounts of children and there is no guaruntee that the child will be adopted in the first place. It reduces the chances of the child being adopted and I suspect that would be rather hard on the children.
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Originally Posted by Gidig
I don't think people think about this at all when saying abortion should not be legal, that we should just have adoption and so forth. But it's not that easy really.
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I agree, when people say abortion should be illegal, then you have to wonder, if that indeed did happen, what would be some likely practical outcomes in addition to adoption? If some families are struggling financially, then taking a child in, whether the government makes them or whether they choose to, is only going to worsen the situation not only for the adoptee but for the entire family including the adoptee.
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Originally Posted by Josh
I've live life enough to know that nonadoptees have a very narrow viewpoint of us - this thread has done more than solidify that - they only see the negatives, for some reason only adoptees are able to see the positives
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Well from what you've shown in this thread, you are not very open-minded about non-adoptees and according to you, non-adoptees are not very open-minded about adoptees. But thank you for the wonderful generalization with what adoptees and non-adoptees viewpoints are.