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Originally Posted by asphyxiated
I hear what you're saying, but if I was raped and considered giving the child up for adoption, I would not want my rapist's seed growing within me. It would be a constant reminder of what was stolen from me- an almost year long reminder.
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Having not known a person in this situation, I cannot say for sure, but I do wonder whether or not some women may regret it later on in their life and wish that they would have held in there and given the child up for adoption. Because if that does occur, I'd actually think it would add to the pain and make it last longer... as said, don't know for sure, but that's kinda what I question when it comes to rape victims. So it's still more, what's in their best interest and would it add to it in some cases.
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Elle, you stated the adopted CHILD. That is what I'm replying to, that you thought it would be kinder for the child to abort it rather than surrender it (orphanage, adoption, etc.).
Hey, you brought it up, you also asked earlier how I could have a stronger connection than you will ever have to that quote... well, it's my life - the adoptee. And no it would not be kinder to have aborted me, that statement did disturb me. Second hand isn't good enough, experiences and emotions - which I can account for - get lost in translation.
You didn't say suicide per
se, but the way you stated it kind of made it seem like you thought you're friend wondering why they were born - "why wasn't I aborted?" - as a really detremental part of their life, while really it's more of a casual bad day thing that I've seen A LOT of nonadoptees go through... we just live in a world of fantasy and multiple-dimensions in which many routes are possible.
My previous statement has nothing to do with feeling like I can see there's life in an embryo, it's about seeing things as an adoptee to your rash comment that abortion is "kinder" in situations where the mother doesn't want the child which describes every adoption for whatever reason it's not wanted - why else do they put it up for adoption? They don't plan to get pregnant and put the child up for adoption...