Jack, dude, you don't have facts. You have an opinion that is just as valid as everyone else - remember that. In my mind is the phrase I used because people are starting to claim I'm trying to force them to think a certain why while I'm also just stating my opinion. Stated it that way because you capitilized those words. Everything you just stated is in YOUR mind as everything I've stated is in mine.
Can't type all of the data out, but that's in the book - if you care to look it up on google books the manual way is "journey of the adopted self." Page thirty. I see it as life & the possibility of life and don't agree with it, but I can't force it nor do I have any intention of forcing anything as people have been accusing me of (I just talk strongly, thus I find that implication actually amusing) - it's just all my mind like it's all your mind and all their mind.
I never stated make it illegal.
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Originally Posted by xxEllexx
it's all very well you not agreeing with her, but at the end of the day surely you can accept that the decision lies with her, not you. i know that the kid would be half made up of you, but that fact that it's inside her still remains.
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As said, I can't force anyone to do anything. I can tell her how important it is to me and that it would be too painful for me to lose it in that way, that I couldn't possibly foresee a continuation in the relationship. Having a child is actually a REALLY important stepping stone in adoptee's life, it's their first real connection to the world. Makes an alien human. For some guys it would be shrugging it off, due to my origins and how they've shaped my life I can never cast it off that easily. I even think that's one of the reasons 'Superman Returns' really has an effect on me, because of the significance emotionally of having that birth connection - my child' be my whole world.