[WhisperingSilence]

I've been a self harmer most of my life from a young age (not that when I was younger I was aware it was self harm though) I think the first time I was made aware that what I was doing was not something everyone did I was probably around the same age as you 10-12 years old I'm not going to tell you the way in which I would self harm a that age as I don't think it's necessary, but I do know that the longer you self harm for the harder it is to stop/quit. However that being said when I was younger for me it wasn't so much about harming myself, it was more a sensory seeking thing, I have ADHD and Autism.

Also some forms of self harm like you described and said that you have OCD can like fall in the umbrella of both self harm and OCD behaviours things like as you described - Hair pulling (trichtillomania ) can be a OCD behaviour and also a self harm behaviour.

It may help for you to try and maybe find alternatives, some things that I find help me are creative things such as colouring , creative writing, making loom bands, going out in nature , going for a walk or doing some exercise.

It may help for you to talk to a school counsellor or pastoral care service within your school, the only time a school counsellor or pastoral care service within the school would tell someone is if they thought you were at risk of harm (abuse, real risk of harm to yourself or concerns that you are suicidal ) other than that from what I know most things you talk to a school counsellor or pastoral care service about remain confidential.